You hate to fail.
You cannot stand the pain of disappointment.
You work very hard and push yourself to the farthest limits, because you’ve tasted victory once in life, and you want that same taste over and over again.
You have the best work ethic anyone can aspire to, and your incredible skills are designed to bring you great results time and again.
But it doesn’t always work that way.
From time to time, life throws a clog in your wheels and you’re grounded to a screeching halt.
Your highest desires are suspended on the railings of fate, as you grapple with lowly thoughts of how much more you could have done, and what else could have been.
You sink to the deepest depths of regret, and you curse your bad luck.
If only every attempt we make yields the best results;
If only every investment brings a great windfall of wealth;
If only every planting season gives birth to a great harvest;
If only, but not always.
There will be disappointments in life, as sure as night and day.
There will be painful occurrences, but there will be celebrations also.
The only failure is the failure to try, and the true measure of success is how we deal with disappointments.
As the Indians say, “everything will be alright in the end, and if it is not alright, it is surely not the end”.
The grass is greener on the other side – I’ve heard this statement proven and debunked time and again.
When you’re going through hard times, you can readily look back on where you were and where you could have been if you hadn’t made that ‘wrong’ move, or if you hadn’t listened to that person. You think that every single thing that is happening at this moment could have been avoided if only you had been more careful, or if you hadn’t trusted your own instincts so much. Hind-sight is 20-20, and whatever that really means, you will always have that feeling that you could have done better.
But life will be so boring if everything were so perfect. If you never made ‘mistakes’, what experiences will there be to learn from? If you never embarrassed yourself, how will you know what you should avoid next time? If you never failed at something, how will you know what you’re really good at? If you never choked on an attempt, how will you know what your real limits are? If you never got a rejection, how will you find the strength to try again?
It’s all about the daily struggles, survival, failures, stress, emotional distress, heartbreak, celebrations and everything else that make life as unpredictable as it is. If you always knew the outcomes of your activities, what will be the excitement in reaching for new heights? If you could always predict success or failure for every endeavour, what will be the purpose of the adrenaline in your system?
Just let go! Stop trying to predict every outcome. Stop lamenting every ‘wrong’ decision you have made. Of course, you should always aspire to be the best you can be, and when you’ve done that, be at peace with yourself. You can’t always guide the hands of fate; actually you can never guide the hands of fate. The best you can do is the best you can do. The game is not yours to call.
Live life and be happy!
June 22, 2013